Coping, or Overcoming?

It’s easy to lose your mojo. It’s summer…when we normally downshift anyway. But more than that, we are weary of life with masks and distancing and non-stop news of the heart-breaking injustice, violence and loss in our cities. The stock market goes up and our hopes rise, only to plummet again.

To make matters worse, our election-aggravated culture war is starting to ramp up for five long months of political assault on our hearts. Hopes of returning to an economic or daily “normal” are sinking and for many a feeling of low to high-grade anxiety is settling in. Or perhaps a roller coaster of both.

There is much talk of how to cope. That is not what this post is about. Coping with all the issues mentioned above carries the idea that we are using strategies and methods to merely survive. Riding the roller coaster of news, events and emotions, but managing our fear and anxiety enough to stay on the rails and not launch into the abyss or crash at the bottom.

But interestingly, the word “cope” is not used in the Bible.

We are commanded to endure. “As for you, always be sober-minded, endure suffering, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry” (2 Timothy 4:5).

But the Lord Jesus continually casts for us a vision of endurance mingled with overcoming. “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world (John 16:33).” Overcoming carries the meaning of endurance that vanquishes the enemies of souls. It speaks of thriving. Flourishing.

I have endured enough tribulation to know that overcoming does not always feel like a happy, clappy win. Sometimes the pain is so awful we can barely choose Christ in the midst of the battle.

But overcoming does mean choosing Christ. Waking up day after grinding day and choosing to believe, trust and hope in his overcoming victory because he endured the worst suffering imaginable and has defeated the enemy. The apostle John assures us, “For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world – our faith (1 John 5:4).

So we lift up our shields of faith because he has already overcome.

What does that look like? Take my friend, Abby

She had a really crummy week last week. Her three year old was constantly in contrarian mode. Whatever she suggested, he wanted the opposite. On Thursday she melted down, feeling as emotionally exhausted as only a strong-willed three-year old can make you.

But on Saturday and Sunday she chose Christ. She prepared her heart to lead in worship on Sunday.

On Sunday morning about 40 of us walked into a worship center big enough to hold 175. We wore our masks and spaced ourselves out throughout the room. Even though it was so good to be back in the building and we looked forward to chatting outside afterwards, to me it looked creepy. And felt kind of dead.

There is simply something about worship that works better when you are shoulder to shoulder in a packed room. When you sing and the singing around you is so strong you don’t hear your own voice as much as it blends with each other in praise, gratitude and petition. It can transcend the room and lift us up to God’s throne where we sense his presence with us. We sing from our hearts straight to Jesus. The joy and beauty of it is contagious.

But now we sing songs muffled by masks. We are so spread out in the room that we can hardly hear anyone else singing.

If you’ve ever tried to speak to or lead 5 people in a room that can hold 25, or 20 in a room that can hold 85, or 40 in a room that can hold 175, you know that it’s like trying to haul elephants uphill. The dispersion of people in all that space just kills the energy. You feel like you have to exude 10 times the energy to connect with everyone. To draw them in.

I don’t know exactly how Abby did it. But she lifted her heart to Christ, mustered all her gift and training in leading worship, and she led out on “Beneath the Waters (We Will Rise)” with deep passion and overcoming in her voice. Her faith and her love for the Lord Jesus was contagious. It overcame the creepiness and the social distance and the dead zone of a mostly empty room to lift us up in true praise and deep worship.

It was one person deciding to interrupt the weariness of her week and pour all her time and talent into using her gifts, loving people, and serving God. She stood on the shoulders of the entire worship team and the AV team. Together they overcame and helped us overcome. And worship.”We *will* rise!”

How will we overcome?

Last post I asked, in the face of all the fear floating around, what are we prepared to do? How will we fight against fear?

This week I am asking myself and you, “How will we move past just surviving and coping?” “How will we overcome?”

The battle for our hearts is getting fiercer. Will we show up? Will we take our place on the front lines and pour out our hearts, time, money and talent to endure with prayer for an overcoming spirit and help others do so too?

It all flows from our time in God’s presence—listening to his words with a heart to obey. God commands us, “Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord” Romans 12:11And what he requires he supplies. If all the viral, cultural and political drama has sucked you dry, he will renew your zeal—your passion for him and his kingdom. Only draw close to him and he will draw close to you. Ask him for the grace and strength to overcome and serve when you feel so stuck. Romans 12:11. There is a deep connection between serving and overcoming.

With a heart warmed by Christ’s love and constant “Help me!” prayers of faith, the power of Christ in us can overcome the inertia of disappointment and busted plans, and even the unrelenting pain and weariness of injustice. Even the fear of great loss. Even death.

These are not just pretty words. Through the power of his Spirit, God can renew our strength. Rekindle our vision. As we regain our passion we can do the things that truly replenish our joy, especially “fulfilling our ministry” to others.

Every summer I usually host a book group where we go deep into the thoughtful, Biblical writing of a gifted author. This year, with Coronavirus ramping up again after lockdown, I was wondering if it was possible. When we’ve hunkered down for months and pulled up the drawbridge how do we let it down and move out again? My prayer has been simple, “Lord, I love you. Please use me.”

In faith I’ve chosen a book. In faith sent emails. In faith made an outside-on-our-porch plan.

This week a group of young Moms and mentors will gather on my back porch to discuss Dallas Willard’s The Divine Conspiracy. Will it still be hot at 7p? Probably. Even with a ceiling fan on our porch. Will it feel risky? Probably. At least a little. Even though we’ll be outdoors. But I decided that the risk was worth the time it took to try to figure out how to do it and carry through. Will we have to resort to Zoom if the numbers keep rising? Maybe…

The risk will be worth getting to know these women, going deep into God’s Word, and learning about living a “kingdom kind of life.” The risk will be worth wearing masks if we decide that is most comfortable for everyone.

We expect blessing. We expect the joy of letting Jesus rescue us from strategies and coping and living small. And only enough vision to circle the wagons and stay safe. We expect God to give us the joy of overcoming the disruption, sorrow, loss and pain of this season.

What can you do to choose overcoming and “fulfilling your ministry”? What political or cultural frustration do you need to give to Jesus? What conversation can you have with someone across the racial divide? What friend needs your comforting presence on the phone or in a brief outside visit?  What decisions will you make to go deeper into life with God so you can pour it into others?

Lord, like Jabez, “enlarge [our] territory, that Your hand would be with [us].” Please use me.

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4 thoughts on “Coping, or Overcoming?

  1. Lael, Thanks. You keep “reading my mail” and “cleaning my clock”…with such gentle grace.

    This morning God brought to mind some words of Oswald Chambers about “gracious uncertainty.” My greatest giant in life is uncertainty. Nothing “grasshoppers” me faster and more thoroughly. These turbulent days provide uncertainty in abundance–as they are likely choreographed to do. Nevertheless, God directed me to the only haven in all this turbulence: Jesus. I’ll let Oswald share his own thoughts:

    “Certainty is the mark of the commonsense life– gracious uncertainty is the mark of the spiritual life. To be certain of God means that we are uncertain in all our ways, not knowing what tomorrow may bring. This is generally expressed with a sigh of sadness, but it should be an expression of breathless expectation. We are uncertain of the next step, but we are certain of God. As soon as we abandon ourselves to God and do the task He has placed closest to us, He begins to fill our lives with surprises.” –MY UTMOST FOR HIS HIGHEST (April 29).

    And today, again in UTMOST: “Let circumstances be what you may, but keep recognizing Jesus, maintaining complete reliance upon Him. …It is only through abandonment of yourself and your circumstances that you will recognize Him.”

    I recognize wind, and I recognize waves. Now I must recognize Jesus.

    • Mike, I’m so glad you replied online. Chambers has said it so powerfully. It enlarges this post. Thank you! And many of us are thinking dittos on your last line.

  2. Very good and to the point again.
    I like that “cope” is not Biblical – we keep trying:).
    It is perplexing when we feel under-challenged and also cautious because of health concerns..
    Glad a book study looks like it will work for you. Sounds fun!
    Thanks again.

    • It is perplexing, Pat. May God give you the wisdom you need to navigate the risk and serve him well. I had invited a friend to join our book group tonight, but she’s been sick this week. Turns out she has Covid. If she had started feeling bad tomorrow instead of last Sunday… We met on the porch and social distanced, but the pandemic goes on.